People With “Disabilities” – They Are Absolutely Amazing

I struggle to not say something that I may not intend to say. People with disabilities overcome a lot of obstacles. I admire them. Having grown up with people with disabilities gave me a little insight into their struggles.

I truly respect all people and expect to get that same respect in return. When I get a whiff of disrespect, my respect for such a person begins to wane. Nothing in the section is meant to be disrespectful.

Define “disabilities”

“Disability” is a legal term. Do people really have “disabilities?” “Disabilities” is a term that implies (to me) that someone is less than other people, maybe even inhuman. I disagree! The government throwing money at “disabilities” does not guaranty good treatment of the “disabled.” It does guarantee that someone will make money off of a person’s “disability.” That’s OK if the person with the “disability” gets some benefit. This is not always the case.

Some Laws

At one time, a disability meant institutionalization. The Civil Rights of Institutionalized Persons Act did not become a federal law until 1980. “Such institutions include state and locally operated jails and prisons, juvenile correctional facilities, public nursing homes, mental health facilities and institutions for individuals with intellectual disabilities.”

The Americans with Disabilities Act (ADA) did not become law until 1990. The people I knew had obvious difficulties long before either of these laws existed.

People with “Disabilities”

Disabled people can be different than the average person. But isn’t everybody different than everybody else? Wouldn’t it be awful if everybody was just alike? Sometimes I inquire about a diagnosis, but not for the purpose of looking down my nose at someone. Let me give you examples of some of the different people I have known.

Sandy

Sandy was blind. He did not become blind until he was in high school. And he refused to let his blindness limit him.

Is blindness a “disability” when every other sense compensates by being better than the average person’s senses. He could hear you close to him by recognizing your footsteps.

And he also played the guitar. He knew how to get around in a room, as long as you didn’t rearrange the furniture. If you did rearrange the furniture, he probably could still get around. I saw him jump off a swimming pool diving board without any help.

He learned to use the label of “disabled” to his advantage. But I never considered him “less than” anyone. He learned to adapt to his situations.

He passed away when the tumors that took his sight also took his life. Never had the words of “Amazing Grace” meant so much to me as at his funeral – “I was blind, but now I see.”

Experience of the Parents of a Child in 1940s or 1950s (a quote)

“I had suddenly been demoted from the role of a professional to that of the parent as patient; the assumption by some professionals that parents of a retarded child are emotionally maladjusted and are prime candidates for counseling, psychotherapy, or tranquilizers.

My attempts to point out the many indications of developmental delays and neurological disturbances were categorically dismissed as manifestations of my emotional problems. I was witnessing another captivating professional reaction: the ‘deaf ear syndrome’; the attitude on the part of some professionals that parents are complete ignoramuses so that any conclusion they reach regarding their own child is categorically ignored.

Later I found that suggestions I would make regarding my own child would be totally dismissed by some professionals, while the same suggestions made by a professional about other children would be cherished by my colleagues as professional pearls of wisdo.

The Minnesota Governor’s Council on Developmental Disabilities. “Parallels In TimeA History of Developmental Disabilities.” Parallels In Time | A History of Developmental Disabilities | Part One. Accessed March 28, 2019. https://mn.gov/mnddc/parallels/five/5a/6.html.

Very Little Instruction Before 1975 (a quote)

“Prior to 1975, people with profound disabilities seldom received any type of instruction. Persons with mild mental retardation were categorized as “educable” and had the opportunity to learn basic academic subjects and develop social skills. People with more severe disabilities were categorized as “trainable” and received instruction in self-help skills and socialization.” 2


The Minnesota Governor’s Council on Developmental Disabilities. “Parallels In TimeA History of Developmental Disabilities.” Parallels In Time | A History of Developmental Disabilities | Part One. Accessed March 28, 2019. https://mn.gov/mnddc/parallels/five/5d/16.html.

Phyllis

Phyllis had Down syndrome. She was such a delight! I can hear her now correcting me for something – “Wash it, Steffy.” She could be hard to understand at times, but she could always make me see the beauty of the simple things in life.

She was a regular at the special Olympics. And was always proud to show off her achievements.

I only saw her upset once. It seemed that someone at work mistreated her or looked down on her.

Phyllis passed away in her fifties, but doctors did not expect her to live that long.

I am proud to say that both of these people were my first cousins. Both of their families took wonderful care of them. I cannot imagine what their parents or siblings went through in the process of taking care of them. Bless them all.

In loving memory of Sandy and Phyllis.

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